Our Night @ SNL (And Why I’d Make a Terrible Paparazzi)

So here’s how you get to be in the audience of SNL at the famous 30 Rock (which stands, of course for 30 Rockefeller Plaza). 

Go online to NBC. You find the form. You fill out the form. And then you wait. And wait. You don’t get to select days or anything like that – it’s just throwing your name in a hat and maybe, one day, it will come up! And if you aren’t available the day your name comes up – to bad. You are graciously invited to enter your name again – next year!

So we signed up and promptly forgot about it.

Then, about two weeks ahead of time, we get the email notice that we have been selected to attend the December 10 – and miraculously that was one of the few weekends we would indeed be in town! It was all very exciting. The e-mail gives us the most basic information, tells us to arrive early and ask for  “Cara’s line.” It also emphasizes that we be on time or our seats will be given away. It also informs us to bring as few things with us as possible, ie: small purse – no extra bags, etc.

The day of the show we get all cute and take a car service down to Rockefeller Center – thinking we will walk around and relax a bit before the show. Uhhh. Rockefeller Center. Home of the famous “tree.”  Two weeks before Christmas.

No kidding it took the better part of an hour to get the last half-mile. I have never seen crowds like this. Shoulder to shoulder does not describe the blocks of bodies jammed into each other – almost in a gridlock. We finally just get out of the car (thankfully Garrett was back at the apartment – he would have surely been trampled!) and we begin to brave our way thru the massive amount of humanity. 

Exhausted and a bit shell-shocked we make it to the doors of Rockefeller Center. Once inside we take a deep breath (there’s room to actually inhale and exhale here!) and carrying our printed out email notice we head to security. They take our paper, give us real tickets and then we are directed to a line in the lobby. We get in it. And we wait. And wait. And people watch. And look for anything cool. I watch a guy in a suit come in – I think he looks like Alec Baldwin, but I know the host tonight so I keep looking. I really want to see Seth Meyers (yes, I have a tiny crush on him – it’s ok, Marcus knows and he has a crush on “Blossom” so it’s all good.)

Finally the doors open and the line SLOWLY begins to move forward. We go thru security, much like when going into a courthouse. They took my purse, searched it, made us take off our coats, etc. Then we are funneled into groups and are taken up elevators. I’m not sure how many floors – it felt like a huge amount. We get off – and we stand in line again.

After a bit, the line moves and when we come around a corner, they take our tickets (boo hoo – I wanted to save them and put them in the stack of things that I want to make a scrapbook of but of course that stack is enormous and I will never actually get around to doing it… still I wanted to keep them!) They give us yellow paper wristbands in exchange for the tickets. The line creeps along, but now we are in a hallway filled with photos from some of the best SNL moments ever! The first cast – the iconic sketches – guest hosts… it was a fun stroll down memory lane.

We at last arrive at the theater. The seats are in a balcony and are the old, stadium style and very narrow, with almost no padding left in them. There is very little leg room and the whole layout is arranged at a very, VERY steep angle. We follow along way over to the farthest corner and finally take our seat.

It’s hard to see anything from here – but with the structure most people are in the same boat. Thankfully there are large, flat screen TV’s everywhere.

After waiting a while, Jason Sudeikis comes out to do warm up comedy – and he does great. Then Kenan Thompson comes out, complete with back up singers and does a number (he really can sing!). And then it’s time to start!

The host for the night: Katy Perry, looks gorgeous and tiny. I think when I see her as I so often think when I have the opportunity to meet people in ‘real life’ that I’d only seen in photos or on TV – I’m not positive I’d recognize her if she were walking down the street. Same with most of the cast too – except for Seth of course. This is one reason I know I’d make a terrible paparazzi – I’d walk right by someone famous and never know it!

And of course they had a very strict no camera / no phones policy. And I did in fact see them escort several people out who tried to sneak a photo. Knowing I’m not good at “sneaky” I didn’t even try. Another reason I’d make a terrible paparazzi – I do NOT like getting in trouble!

The stage area is tiny, and every inch of the balcony is filled. They have fold up chairs where the built in seats end – using every available space to squish people in. We end up mostly watching the TV’s because it’s so difficult to see the staging area. But it’s fun just to be there! Katy does a better job than I expected at the skits, wears some of the most amazing outfits and SHOES! omg – the shoes!!

The coolest part (besides Seth) was watching the absolute choreography of swinging sets around and creating so many different vignettes for the various sketches in just moments. Poetry in motion! And at the end of a skit the SNL actors would literally run off stage to get changed for the next bit.

All in all it was a totally fun experience.  Yes, we would have better seats at home. And no, I doubt we’ll put our name back in the hat to try and do it again. But it was very cool to do once!

Oh, and if you missed the episode – guess who made a surprise guest appearance on Weekend Update?  Yah. Alec Baldwin. Not even five feet from him and what do I say? “That guy looks like…” 

Yep. I’d be a terrible paparazzi.

 

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it’s valentines day – love it or…

it’s officially valentines day – or as i’ve heard it called “single’s awareness day”  🙂  i have to admit i love this day, because i’m in love with marcus engel – and for me, truly everyday feels like a celebration of that.

BUT…

i know some of you are feeling alone, or left out, or sad today. even if you are normally content with being single – it might be hard today.

if that is you, here is a very honest suggestion i hope you will consider. 

go find someone who needs it and LAVISH love on them.  go get flowers and take them to the widow across the street. or the nursing home around the corner. smile extra big at everyone you see today. call your family and tell them you love them. sent a note of appreciation to your bff’s.

you get the idea… pay it forward.

love will find you – it’s all around. for now – give it away!

❤  mE

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An East Village Surprise

“YOU CAN NEVER STEP INTO THE SAME RIVER;
FOR NEW WATERS ARE ALWAYS FLOWING ON TO YOU”
~ Heraclitus of Ephesus

“You’ve gotta go down to the East Village to a place called McSorty’s – you will totally love it!”

That conversation, well over a year ago and months before we moved to NYC has echoed around our apartment every weekend that we haven’t been on the road. But it took us till last Saturday evening to follow our good friends advice and check out the famous (perhaps infamous?) McSorley’s.  Knowing that it was a long subway ride south with one train transfer, Marcus opted to leave Garrett at home while we went out exploring.

QUICK HISTORY:  McSorley’s has the fine distinction of being the oldest “continually operating saloon” in NYC.  It claims patrons from Abraham Lincoln (yes, that one!) to John Lennon. (And from the looks of some of the “dustier” corners I’d say it’s highly likely you can still breathe some of the very same air as honest Abe did!).  And to top it off – it wasn’t until 1970 that women were even allowed to enter the place!

Talk about “atmosphere” – it is here in spades! This being New York the place is traditional in that you walk in and it’s long and very narrow –not much room to maneuver, especially when it’s packed on a Saturday night.  The décor is very rustic (ie: sticky) and there are remnants of sawdust on the floor. There is of course a long bar that looks like it’s been scratched and gouged for ages (duh – it probably has!), flowing down one side of the room and then a spattering of tables on the other side. The tables are round and made of old (very well worn) wood, about 2 feet in circumference. They are basically lined up along the wall opposite the bar, then jammed in every space imaginable around the tables are wooden (and very creaky) chairs. The walls are completely covered in mismatched items that all are interesting, unique and old looking; photos of notable people, newspaper articles, a playbill from the 1800’s and bit’s of antique knick-knacks are absolutely everywhere.

So we weave our way in, and a man in a short sleeve grey jacket (he SO reminded me of Mark Twain!) saw us approach and, just like an accomplished maestro silently pointed us to a table that was still in the process of being vacated. We took our seats; he came over and simply looked at us, a bit impatiently.  Before I could finish asking, “What do you…” he replied. “Light or Dark” That’s it. No menu, not much choice of anything and the place is filled to overflowing with people! Strange – but we were totally loving it!

While soaking up the vibe and savoring the history of the place, I was running my hands across the table saying – can you believe we are sitting where President Lincoln – “  I was interrupted as the conductor – I mean waiter – shoved three guys toward our table and told me to scoot down.

There was something about this guy – he wasn’t brawny or loud … but you just knew to do what he said and do it quickly!  So scoot I did and the guys crowded around our table.

We smiled and exchanged “hello’s” and I could immediately tell one of the guys was studying Marcus intently. Now that in itself is a little strange in the city – you walk outside during a snow storm in your bathrobe with a guy jogging around the corner in a two piece bikini and no one even does a double take, but this guy is definitely checking Marcus up and down.

Almost immediately he leans over to Marcus and says, “hey, are you by chance… ”  Marc says, “yes” and the guys start smiling and nodding at one another, “I knew it! We heard you speak at the Kappa Sigma Grand Conclave down in San Antonio and man…”

And the fun conversation begins from there. We had a wonderful time and turns out these guys attend a college way south in Brooklyn where, naturally we’ll be going to visit soon. (Strange thing…. I had to turn 40 before I got to meet and hang out with fraternity guys – go figure!)

It was so surreal that we showed up at the exact right time to get seated at the only empty space – and the waiter put these guys at our table… (*side note: I take full credit for the timing because I just HAD to buy a pair of the $3 dollar knitted ear muffs – negotiated down from $5 of course – and then practically shoved Marcus into the plastic hut for the 10 minute Chinese massage by the Asian lady around the corner before we walked around the block to go inside McSorleys !)

Now, I hope you enjoyed this little pic of our East Village experience – but there is something so much more important I walked away with that night, and I really hope you’ll remember this too…

Yes, Marcus shares his story for a living. And it is the BIGGEST honor to be able to have work that is so meaningful and impacts people… but you and I have the same opportunity in our own world – every single day.

You have a story. I know you do. You survived something. You learned something. You have something to share that someone else needs to hear. Today. Everyday.

Now – I’m just gonna tell you straight up – if you go around telling some long drawn out story of “woe is me” ain’t NOBODY gonna wanna piece of that! You know it’s the truth!

And oh my Lord, no, I am not saying everyone needs to write a book or become a speaker! (Heaven help us!)

But someone in your sphere of the world needs YOU – your encouragement, your smile, your willingness to believe in someone, listen to someone, comfort someone, go out on a limb for someone, share with someone, reach out and hug someone – you may be the very best hope they have. Right now.

Your life – your story – who YOU are.  Look around today, see who needs you and step up to the plate. It might be a co-worker, a relative, a cashier, maybe it’s even the sullen teenager who who lives in your home, but you feel like you barely know anymore. It could be the neighbor you pass everyday but never really stopped to “see.”

You may never know the impact you have on someone’s life, but I promise, with all my heart, I know this to be true:

An encouraging word is never wasted –
it spins into the atmosphere and whispers softly, repeatedly,
deep inside a person’s very soul when they need it the most.

And who knows, someday years from now, far from home, crammed into a tiny historic saloon you just might have someone say… “hey, aren’t you…. ?”

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Four Boobs, A Crazy White Woman and a Couple of Camera Phones

Okay – tons to catch up on – and I will – I promise! But I have to tell you about today, our first real adventure into (dah dah dah daaaaah) the BRONX baby!

As part of Marcus’ graduate work, he will be volunteering to teach a group of the nursing staff at a rather famous hospital and community center way up north in the Bronx.

Having had such a wonderful experience thus far in NYC, I was really excited when they asked us to come tour the facility, meet the coordinator and of course fill out piles and piles of paperwork (it is a healthcare system after all!)

When the secretary emailed us the directions, I’ll admit I was a bit intimidated. I’ve certainly not become a certified subway rat – but I do know my way around enough to get to basically anywhere I wanna go! (ie: best food joints, best shopping, the naked cowboy… etc. )

But this was something entirely different. And in addition to changing trains several times, we’d also take a bus (our first time to do that!) and walk – and walk – and walk – and walk…. Now, for us walking is just part of a day. The nearest subway stop to our apartment is about a mile and that’s nothing so when I tell you we walked and walked, rest assured – it was a LOT!

Oh – and of course it’s around freezing temps.  And did I mention the rain?? Oh yes, lots of slippery cold wet rain (well – as opposed to dry rain I suppose…)

Anyway – the directions we were given were ummmm….. not so great! (being nice here!) so we had to ask directions and turn around so much I lost track. 

BUT we made it!  Turned in all our paperwork, filled out more forms and were headed out the door when we were suddenly told two new bits of info:

1)   Marcus would have to get a drug test w/in the next 48 hours.  And they couldn’t do it at the hospital… (HUH????)  And there is no facility near us so basically – good luck!

2)   Marcus needs blood work drawn to determine that he actually had all the immunizations we brought the medical records in to prove he has. Sigh. This however can be done nearby.

So, off we go with our pile of paperwork in search of the lab that will only draw blood and not do the pee test.  We found it without to much drama, took our seats in the packed lobby and proceeded to wait our turn.

Now, we’ve been in NYC for several months, and really there isn’t a lot that surprises me – there is just so much diversity of people that what might look bizarre in another setting is – well just the city. And honestly that is part of why I love being here!

But once seated I began glancing around the room to the pass the time and saw the usual assortment of characters you find in most any waiting room at any hospital… and then I saw…. Well, I’m not sure of the PC thing to say… I’m quite positive this person was born male, but no longer dresses or behaves male. Nothing new in that of course – but what WAS sticking out (and yes oh yes I mean sticking out) were four, count ‘em, one – two – three – four of the perkiest boobs you’ve ever seen.

A double layer.

Two on top.

Two below.

2×2

 

And before you ask – no, this was not a fat person, no, it was not muffin top… this was intentional dressing to accentuate what, I suppose, so much money had been spent on!

Now, I know it’s shameful – and yes, I’m a bad, bad, person… but I really REALLY wanted to sneak a pic to share with all of you! (and come on – you’d look wouldn’t ya??)  But I couldn’t do it. The angles were wrong, people kept stepping in between us… all the kinda stuff. So fail on getting the photo. (boo!)

So instead I texted one of my bff’s (who shall remain nameless) to tell him what I was looking at.  I’m pretty sure he missed the fact that it was a male I was talking about because his first response was “yummmm.” 

You boys are all alike! 

Anyway, after doing our thing, we had accumulated 6 train transfers, miles of walking in the rain, our first time on a city bus, being lost and wondering around the Bronx, and were finally stepping onto our last train… almost back to our part of the world. 

Well, I suppose my shoes were slippery from the rain, and when we got onto the train I was busy getting Garrett’s tail where it would be safe and get all settled in and the train started before I was expecting it.

Next thing I know I’m sitting squarely on the lap of this young black guy who happened to be nearby.

I begin to profusely apologize… blabbering like I tend to do in such situations… when I realize that while I am saying, “I’m so sorry” repeatedly I was however NOT getting up! I was just sitting there – stunned I guess! 

He was quite gracious, and I finally got myself together and took a proper seat.

Within two stops I was laughing so hard I had tears in my eyes…. I was thinking about what a great story I had to tell everyone about ‘miss double boobs’ and this guy was probably going home to tell everybody about the crazy white woman who sat in his lap, wouldn’t get up, and in a few minutes started laughing like a lunatic! 

Ahhhh…. The things that keep you humble right??

And man I’m really, really hoping the guy across the aisle from me didn’t have his camera phone on…. 

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An Accidental Thief

So even tho this was our chance to enjoy Christmas in NYC we realized we simply could NOT miss our precious new grandson’s first Christmas. So here we sit in Florida – in 85 degree weather.  Even tho I’ve lived in Florida off and on most of my life it still is kinda freaky to see the kids on Santa’s lap wearing shorts and flip-flops!

Christmas Eve’s Eve my daughter and I make the insane decision to hit the Millennia Mall – one of the busiest in Central Florida on a normal day. Also one of the most expensive so we window-shop way more than we actually purchase.  Anyway – dashing in to and out of stores looking for bargains and wigglying our way thru long lines of frantic shoppers was actually, overall kinda fun. It felt like holiday spirit in a strange way!

We were almost ready to call it a day when I saw a gorgeous bag in the Michael Kors store. I drug Maddison along and ran to the display. To see the one I was already in love with I had to move one that was not so cute – okay – it was ugly. I moved an ugly one to look at the lovely one that was calling me… whispering so tenderly in my ear… I looked longingly, touched it gently, then returned it to it’s place on the shelf, wiped away a tear and left the store.

We made a couple more quick stops and then with very few shopping bags in hand headed through Nemian Marcus and back to our car. As I pulled out my keys I looked at my arm and – oh my god!! The ugly purse was still hanging from my wrist!

I stopped abruptly and began gasping to Maddison “Look!! Look what I still have!!”  We were both totally horrified. And, ugly as it was – it still cost the same as the beautiful one.

I was looking around waiting for the police to pull up or security to come running up to me – and nope. No one in sight.

What do you do?? We look at the bag – look at our car five feet away and immediately turn around and head back into the mall. Now of course I can’t remember where the store even is and I just KNOW I’m going to be arrested while attempting to correct this mistake. After holding my breath, I’m sure looking shifty eyed and finally finding the store I practically run to the first sales associate and blurt out, “I got to my car and realized I was still holding this – here it is!”

Her mouth was still hanging open when I dashed out of the store and back to my car. Of course by now Maddison and I are laughing our bums off and saying “shucks – that woulda been a nice present for aunt Martha!”… “Too bad it wasn’t the pretty one!”

And then, for one moment I wondered… what if it had been the pretty one I ended up outside with? Oh I absolutely know I would have returned it – absolutely.

But… I might would have hesitated for just a moment… maybe. Only for a moment… but still… I’m glad it was the ugly one after all.

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When the Holidays Aren’t Happy…

Several years ago – okay, many years ago (where in the world does the time go???) it was the holiday season. Being the oldest sister – I also was the first one to marry, and the first to have a child. Our beautiful baby girl Taylor. The whole extended family was together for the holidays down in the south Florida area and it was so special having a toddler with us! Then a moment of pure “dumb and dumber” struck. I will still never fully understand why 10 reasonable adults decided going to the outlet mall on the busiest shopping day of the year with a 2 year old was a good idea – but off we went! And it was a total zoo – exactly what you would expect.

Still we were having fun and enjoying it when ‘the incident’ occurred. I turned around and didn’t see Taylor. I searched the arms of all the relatives – no Taylor. My husband walked up. No Taylor. In a flash I forgot all the years of social conditioning to behave in public and I went into full mother fury melt down. After yelling a few choice words that I promise I’d never said in my life before that moment, I began barking orders and screaming for my child. She was recovered safe and sound only a few steps away in a variety store where something had apparently caught her attention – none the worse for wear. I however am permanently scarred. Not from the momentarily missing daughter (that was bad enough!) but more from my own horrifying behavior.

Understandable? Probably. And I dare say if a child is in danger any reasonable person will do anything for the safe return of the child! In this case – I very well know I over reacted. And still turn red remembering my outburst… But the loss – even tho only for a moment and with a happy outcome – was more horrific that anything I’d ever felt. As the pain of loss so often is.

And here at the holidays I look around my large family – I love the chaos and laughter and political debates and piano playing and laughter and singing and cooking and laughter and guitar playing and more laughter… I love every moment of it. And I know I am blessed beyond words. There are so many generations are present, the children have turned into teens and young adults and are now joined by the most adorable grandson ever on the plant. (No bias of course – Emme loves you Mason!!)

But – it is never ever very far from my mind that this “perfect” scenario is not something everyone gets to enjoy. And as much as I find the holidays to be so very precious – I know that so many find it to be far less enjoyable.

For those who have suffered loss, the holidays can be the most difficult of all times. Perhaps a loved one has passed on, perhaps a treasured relationship has been severed, or simply separated from loved ones by distance. A child has grown and moved away, a crib remains empty, a sweetheart hasn’t been found, a father is serving overseas…

For some the holidays are painful for financial reasons – wanting so much to give… while having seemingly so little to offer. Looking into the faces of young children who will go without that certain “something.”

I guess for most of us it’s a combination of sweetness and sorrow – things could always be “better” – but usually things could be worse as well. But I personally don’t find comparisons especially helpful. I don’t enjoy haven’t “more” when I know someone around me has “less.”

So I guess my wish for this Christmas – is that everyone look around their own social circle, and reach out to help someone who finds that the holidays are not, in fact, “happy.” And love them. Encourage them. Remember them. Smile and them. Listen to them.

And for anyone who, whatever the reason, is hurting this holiday – I’d really love to give you a hug, remind you that you aren’t alone and let you know in our home we are thinking about you… and offering prayers and best wishes that you will find that ‘perfect peace’ – the kind that does not depend on circumstances… and please remember you are valuable – and you are loved.

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My dirty little secret & a Thanksgiving lesson…

Okay so – there’s something that it’s very likely you don’t know about me… (deep breath)… I watch Y&R.

Now if you don’t know what Y&R is – then you probably don’t watch it! (you’re also probably male!)  The Young & the Restless is a daytime soap opera that has been on the air since 1973… which means when I was a little girl my mom would often have it on. Although I didn’t “watch” it – it was around the house enough that I was familiar with the show, the characters and some of the actors growing up.

Once I had babies of my own and got to be a stay-at-home mom for a while I began to watch it. It was shocking to see mostly a familiar cast after so many years. Then the kids got bigger, life got busier and I sort of drifted away from keeping up with it at all.

Then, one fateful weekday a year or so ago we came home from a very long tour. Exhausted, I decided to give myself a ‘pajama’ day. So I just played on my iPad, read some books, caught up on some games and emails – and flipped on daytime television – something completely out of my norm.

And there it was: Y&R. So many of the same characters – played by many of the very same actors – I couldn’t believe it – especially how good they most all looked! I watched a bit, memories flooding back, and then got ready to turn the channel.

But before I could – HE – appeared. Adam. A new face to me, and a rather new character on the show. There was something about him that I had to watch. (And yes, of course he’s gorgeous – it is a soap after all – but it was more than that…)  This character was a horrible human being. He was doing awful things, messing with people’s lives, manipulating, scheming, plotting and planning – and the whole time he’s doing such dastardly deeds I found myself wanting him to find a way out – to not get into trouble – to not get caught.  WHY??

Being the “internal processor” that I am – I had to study it, take it apart, and find out what it was about Adam that made me root for the bad guy – a position I don’t typically find myself in.

After watching a bit, and learning his story, I think I finally discovered why I cheer for a “jerk.”

I think the answer lies here: The actor who plays Adam (Michael Muhney) does so with such skill that you actually see the conflict in Adam – you feel it.

Is Adam a jerk to his dad? YES… but. He is still feeling pain from being abandoned by his father years ago.

Is he snarky to his half siblings? YES… but he’s felt rejection by them most of his life.

Does he do mean things to the pretty girl who stood by him? YES… but she broke his heart – and he doesn’t have better skills to deal with it…

Does he enjoy being bad??  Hard to tell – but when you watch the character it makes you wonder if he is really evil – or just a man in a lot of pain doing the best he can to figure life out.

Okay – I’m sure that is WAY more than most of you ever wanted to know about Y&R, but stay with me another moment – I really am going somewhere with this J

A few weeks ago I was fortunate enough to win a charity lunch with the actor who plays Adam, Michael Muhney. About 10 of us met at a local NYC restaurant. I am very happy to report that Mr. Muhney is as gregarious, funny, charming, generous and thoughtful as Adam is the opposite. (And side note: he has the most freakin’ gorgeous skin I’ve ever seen on a person! Not a pore in sight! I’ve GOT to find out what he uses!).  Marcus & I had a lot of fun and enjoyed our time together greatly.

Anyone would of. You have a lovely host, perfect conversation, good humor, interesting stories, great food… what’s not to enjoy right? All the elements that make a perfect meal. Sounds like what the Holidays are! Or at least what they are supposed to be…

And now Thanksgiving is upon us. And I’m just wondering how much more fun our lives would be if our holiday meals were filled with more “Michaels” and fewer “Adams”…  Oh you know what I mean. Most every family has someone that is … let’s say difficult.  The Aunt who’s way to bossy, or the Mother-in-Law who smiles while dishing out underhanded comments, or the cousin who is critical of everything anyone brings up… we all have people like this in our lives on some level.  And I know that it can certainly ruin an otherwise happy occasion.

This year I want to encourage you to try something different:  What if a really great actor was playing the role of the annoying person at Thanksgiving dinner. Such a good actor that when the person said something snarky you caught just a glimpse of their backstory – the reason they are the way they are.

Do you really know what kind of pain that annoying person has endured? Where their scars are from? Why they are so miserable they seem to insist on passing it along?

Of course we can’t “fix” everyone. And maybe some people are jerks – well just because they are.  But sometimes it’s simply because they hurt. And they believe no one cares. So maybe – just maybe – you can reach out a bit. Take a chance. Choose to engage in conversation. Listen actively. Talk about a subject they enjoy.  They might just surprise you – and help you discover the real joy of the holidays.

And if not? Well, at least don’t let them steal your joy. Give them the benefit of the doubt and move about your day, knowing you did the right thing. Maybe it’ll be easier next time.

Wishing you all the joy and love of a perfect Thanksgiving – mE

Michael Muhney from Y&R

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Careful – Your Values Are Showing!

A few weeks ago we had the joy – and I do mean truly joy – of being in Hartford, CT at Goodwin College. Within moments of the director of nursing, Jan Costello, picking us up from the train station I KNEW that Goodwin would join the ranks as one of our favorite places to be. As she began to share about the school and the vision they pursed the pure energy and passion was palpable. And it wasn’t just about getting bigger and more successful – the mission all revolves around creating students who succeed and go on to be excellent health care pros and passing that tradition along.

Soon as we stepped foot on campus I was in love. The students – the staff – the spirit of the place was invigorating and inspiring. Creating a supportive culture like that doesn’t happen by accident – it takes intention and teaching and modeling from the top down… and Goodwin does it beautifully!

Marcus did several packed out presentations with the last one being in the evening. There was a long line of people standing at the product table waiting to speak to Marcus and get photos and autographs. I (for once!) got to be over to the side watching rather than working the table.

A young woman came up to me with her two children. A little girl, about 9 years old, and a younger son. She told me how much she enjoyed the talk but that it especially meant a lot to her to hear Marcus say he married a woman with kids and to go on and speak so fondly of his step children. As a single mom, she said she sometimes feels like it’s impossible to find a man willing to take “all that” on. I was happy to assure her that while Marcus is one-in-a-million, there’s someone for her too – just keep working toward your dreams. Then she told me a bit of her story:

Single mom, 2 young children, works full-time and attends school at night to become an RN. Her kids usually go with her to class at night because there is no one else to watch them. She went on to praise the professors for being so supportive and working with her so that the kids can come along. Now this – by itself – says SO much about this school and their commitment to seeing their students succeed! And clearly the children were very sweet and well behaved.

As I was sharing with her how impressed and proud I was of her for committing to something so difficult but seeing it thru her daughter spoke up.

“I’m going to college too!”

“I bet you are! That is wonderful – you’re mom is showing you how important an education is!”

“Yes – and I’m even saving money for it now! I have a business.”

“You do?? What kind of business?”

The beautiful little 9 year old holds out her arm and shows me a string bracelet she has made and explains she sells them to put money in her college fund.

I’m sure you have no doubt that Marcus and I are currently wearing bracelets – and come Christmas most all our family will be too! There is NO way we were going to miss investing in a child with that much determination!

Every time I look at my wrist (Marcus wears his on his ankle) – I think about her. And I think about the school. And I think about her mom. And it reminds me that the things we SAY we value aren’t nearly as important as the things that we actually invest in… that is the real message we send to others. This mom shows her kids every single day that she values education… I wonder what messages I’m sending…

Thanks for the bracelet… and the lesson. ❤

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Planes, Trains, Automobiles…

Limos, Taxis, Subways and walking – lots and lots of walking. That’s what we’ve been up to for the past several weeks!

Yes, we are still in NYC and yes, Marcus is still attending Columbia (he just soared thru mid-terms with rave reviews I might add!).  But in the midst of all the time and energy grad school takes – he has also kept a fairly busy speaking schedule.

It’s been exciting to present for some extraordinary companies, schools and organizations. And being in NYC has given us the opportunity to travel by train a couple of times – which was really a very fun change from so much airline travel.  Just another part of this year’s adventure.

Here are some of the places we’ve been lately:

Lancaster Hospital in Lancaster, PA. A healthcare system that is cutting edge and innovative in their mission to impact their community. (And some of the best hospitality and most amazing food ever!)

DeSales University in Center Valley, PA is one of our ‘regular’ clients where we always look forward to going. We are continually inspired by their passion for creating outstanding student leaders and instilling values that will last a lifetime.

Goodwin College in East Hartford, CT where the commitment to seeing students succeed and develop the “art” of healthcare is truly extraordinary.

Saint Leo College in Tampa, FL another one of our ‘regular’ clients. We always appreciate the opportunity to leave an impacting prevention message for national collegiate alcohol awareness week.

The Oklahoma Nurses Association annual meeting in Oklahoma City.  This group of outstanding nurse leaders from all over the State were an exciting and enthusiastic audience! We love hearing how them excited to take the message of “I’m Here” back to their individual hospitals.

Advocate Health Care in Chicago, IL for a clinical coach symposium filled with nurse leaders who are investing in the next generation of healthcare providers by mentoring tomorrows leaders.

Salt Lake City Community College and the Utah AHEAD Conference rounded out the month. It’s always great to work with the Higher Ed professionals who help ensure students with disabilities have access to a quality education.

The best part of being on the road is getting the opportunity to work with clients dedicated to instilling a culture of quality in their organizations, and to meet so many people – with so many stories – who give us the honor of allowing us to speak into their lives.

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Much love!

 

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marcus update

just a really quick note – before marcus catches me – to give you an academic update.

although marcus does, at times, feel ‘in over his head’ in this program – he is doing brilliantly.

and of course we all expected that he would!

but for confirmation, he got a beautiful note from one of his professors tonight calling his writing work “effective” “haunting” and “artful”

i’m so proud 🙂  i know you guys are too.

now – hitting ‘post’ before he can stop me!!

till next time y’all 🙂

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